Parenting Post-Divorce/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on July 5, 2020


I just came across a blogsite which is authored by Pastor Thom Dick, who serves as Assistant Pastor at the Canadian Southland Church. In an article found here, the Pastor discusses how parenting can work even after divorce.:

There are three rules to consider in post-divorce parenting. They are as follows:
1. Assume that your ex-spouse shares your feeling that of wanting the best for your children. It is a rare person who does not care about their children; who does not want to see his/her children thrive. Always keep the best interests of the children in mind when making decisions.

2. By putting the children first, you will ensure that they are not used as bargaining chips or as a way to “get back” at your ex-spouse.

3. Don’t Lose Hope. Children of divorce have scars and trauma they will likely bear from their parents’ divorce. This is something that can be remedied. Hope, and love, will go a long way in ensuring that they will not bear the burden s placed on them when their parents chose to divorce. To channel a phrase first coined by Israeli Prime Minister Golda Meir: Love your children more than you resent your ex-spouse. Share in their triumphs and dreams. Have hope and confidence in them. They will very likely pay you back for such sentiments with a life filled with achievement and accomplishment.