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How Not to Negotiate/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

March 25, 2017

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Joe Cunningham, of Redstate.Com wrote of the efforts of Steve Bannon to get the Republicans to vote for the American Health Care Act. Mr. Bannon reportedly walked into a room with the Freedom Caucus members present and announced: “This is not a debate. You have no choice but to vote for this bill.” The response […]

Apologies/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

March 22, 2017

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Marjorie Ingall has an article on apologies at realsimple.com/imsorry. She presents her point of view very briefly in the following manner: “A good apology means laying yourself bare. It means putting yourself in the other person’s position, giving her what she wants and needs. In short, it’s not about you.” We are all familiar with […]

A Simple Solution/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

March 12, 2017

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Dr. Dan Shapiro of the Harvard Program on Negotiation makes a simple proposal for moving forward when a party is angered by some aspect of a negotiation. Ask them why they are upset. It is best to make this an “I” statement. For example, consider asking “Is there something that I said (or s/he said) […]

Picking Your Battles/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

March 12, 2017

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It takes two (or more) to get into a dispute. It is easy to lay the blame for the disagreement on the doorstep of the other party. Jacqueline Whitmore, an etiquette expert, cites 15 ways in which one can pick their battles wisely. Three of these suggestions, that center about the issue or personal accountability, […]

Taking A Break/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

March 2, 2017

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There will be times in a mediation session where it is wise to take a break, for the day or for a long period of time. The latter advice was recently posted by the Department of Justice in New Zealand: “If you haven’t reached agreement at the end of your Family Dispute Resolution Sessions…it may […]