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When a Judge Orders One Mediation Session/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

January 13, 2020

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It is very rare that one mediation session will lead to a final agreement. Why then do judges sometimes order that a party attend one mediation session? There are actually a few benefits from such a modest order: 1. Sometimes lightening strikes at a mediation session and the parties are so pleased with their progress […]

Mediation Advice for the New Decade/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

January 1, 2020

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In Stephen Covey’s work, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, he lists this as Habit #3: “Broken focus is the number one reason people fail. It’s not enough to start off on the right track; you must successfully avoid the unnecessary distractions and attractions of life that aim to sidetrack you… The main thing […]

Visitation and a “Visitor”/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

January 1, 2020

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On occasion, during the mediation session, the request is made that the spouse with visitation rights not bring along their newest “significant other” when they see the children. The request is self-understood but is not always met with the promise of compliance. If conversation is not helpful, I try to get the parties to see […]

Who Wins in “Marriage Story”?/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

January 1, 2020

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The current movie about divorce is named “Marriage Story”. This represents an irony. A further complication is that the movie has no winners nor losers; there is likewise no hero and no villain. In this manner, the movie is like many divorces. No one truly comes out ahead. However, Alan Alda’s role as a divorce […]

Expressing Feelings/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

December 14, 2019

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The Program of Negotiation/Harvard University, published a post by Kathy Shonk, on December 12, 2019, entitled “Four Ways to Manage Conflict in the Workplace”. Specifically, the discussion included a treatment on the expression of emotions. Is it OK to express feelings of e.g disappointment, anger, hurt, etc. The answer to this question is in the […]

Alan Alda, Divorce Atty/Martin Rosenfeld, Esq

November 13, 2019

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Alan Alda is currently appearing in a movie about divorce (“Marriage Story”). In a recent interview he said that there is a paradox when people with children get divorced. They have failed in their ability to communicate during their marriage and yet their need to co-parent their children will demand enhanced communication. This is the […]

Mediation in Simple Terms/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

November 3, 2019

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The successful author, Jane Green explained why mediation made sense for her in her divorce action in a brief 50 words: “I am divorced, and one of the things I am tremendously grateful for is that my ex-husband and I made a decision to go through mediation. I knew a trial would drag on for […]