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That Which is Possible/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

August 5, 2017

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The New York Times, in a recent editorial, wrote this about the Trump Presidency: “… (P)olitics is not “The Art of the Deal,” but the art of the possible.” There is often not only one definitive solution to a particular problem. The parties themselves need to search for a solution which is consistent with their needs […]

Doing the Right thing/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 29, 2017

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The historic vote on the repeal of the Obamacare Program fell short by one vote. That vote is attributed to the surprise negative vote of Senator John McCain. Why did he decide to cast a negative vote? He explained that “It was the right thing to do.” There are times in life where our internal […]

The Little Things/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 2, 2017

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A California realtor was interviewed in the Wall Street Journal. His name is Sean Stanfield. He stated that he never relies on lockboxes to allow entry for the prospective buyer. “We always have a member present…It is the little things…that make the biggest difference.” What can make a difference in a mediation? It is hard […]

Safeguarding Wisdom/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 2, 2017

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Kathleen Parker wrote about the last tweet-storm of President Trump. She referred to the “fine art of disregard”. When under verbal assault, one needs to learn how to ignore certain comments. The “disregard” allows important work to get done. Not everybody who disagrees with us is our enemy. A successful mediation is often sparked by […]

Ownership Over a Dispute/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 19, 2017

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The Belfast Agreement of Northern Island was mediated by the former Senator George Mitchell in 1998. The peace that has reigned in that part of the world for nearly 20 years, was a tribute to the skill and negotiation acumen shown by Mr. Mitchell in his mediator role. One conversation, as narrated by Mr. Mitchell, […]

Conflict/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 18, 2017

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Carl Jung, a psychologist and author of note, once said this about conflict: “The most intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calm that is not easily disturbed.” This comment is similar to a statement found in the Talmud, 2000 years previously, to the same effect: “There is no joy akin […]

Boilerplate Divorce Agreements/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

May 29, 2017

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Boilerplate agreements are comprised of typical clauses that simply require an occasional fill-in or brief reference. A mediation client recently showed me such an agreement that a family lawyer had prepared for her. Once she agreed to its content, it would be shared with opposing counsel. Once signed by both parties, the divorce matter would […]