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When Mediation Fails/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

September 6, 2020

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Mediation is the search for Win-Win. Litigation is the search for defeating your opponent. But does mediation always work? In my experience, there are certain factors that make success for the mediation perilous. These factors include the following: *If there is active enmity between the the parties, mediation may not be doomed to failure. If […]

Win-Win By the Numbers/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

September 5, 2020

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The Program on Negotiation of Harvard University had a discussion on Win-Win at https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/win-win-daily/what-is-a-win-win-negotiation? (August 22,2020). Win-Win is a concept that states that two parties, with seemingly different goals, could get to a point where they “won” on the points most important to them. The following example serves to bring this point home: “3. Different […]

The Power We Have/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 19, 2020

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Historian Douglas Brinkley on the life of the late Rep. John Lewis: “He believed in the power of love, not the power of hate.” For those brave enough to try to mediate disputes with their “opponents”, they may be so fortunate so as to internalize this truism; the nullity of the power of hate. Mediate […]

Congressman John Lewis: RIP/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 18, 2020

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Congressman John Lewis lived a life dedicated to liberty and justice. His mentor in his life was the late Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. The following thought, is both aspirational and helpful to those who need dispute resolution. More importantly, these words were declared by someone who “cheated death” on more than one occasion, in […]

Parenting Post-Divorce/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 5, 2020

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I just came across a blogsite which is authored by Pastor Thom Dick, who serves as Assistant Pastor at the Canadian Southland Church. In an article found here, the Pastor discusses how parenting can work even after divorce.: https://www.mysteinbach.ca/blogs/9555/three-keys-to-successfully-co-parent-after-divorce/ There are three rules to consider in post-divorce parenting. They are as follows: 1. Assume that […]

A Prime Minister Speaks on ADR/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 28, 2020

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An article penned by the Harvard Program on Negotiation (found at https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/international-negotiation-daily/international-negotiations-and-conflict-tony-blairs-10-principles-for-dispute-resolution-negotiations/) discusses the negotiation style of former UK Prime Minister Tony Blair. Of particular note is the following idea: “Because the two sides in a lingering dispute have difficulty seeing each other’s pain, conflict resolution is best viewed as a journey rather than an […]

The Benefits of Mediation/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 21, 2020

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Many benefits are listed as “selling points” for mediation. It is fast, it is relatively inexpensive, it is private, etc. However, there are benefits of mediation that go beyond its favorable comparison with standard litigation. It is better to resolve disputes amicably than via confrontation and rancor. Tf you will, mediation is better for the […]

Isolating and Separating?Martin Rosenfeld,JD

June 14, 2020

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A post by Hadassah Fidler appeared at mediate.com (June 12, 2020)on the issue of “Separation in Isolation”. What advice can be given to couples who are contemplating divorce while simultaneously isolating under one roof, due to COVID-19? An Israeli psychologist, Dr. Yossi Shafer suggests that the couple focus on survival and not dwell on long-range […]

Bias or Something Else?/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

May 28, 2020

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A few days ago, Amy Cooper was walking her dog in Central Park. An African-American gentleman told her that her dog was not leashed. Ms. Cooper reacted to this comment by calling NYC police and falsely claiming she had been threatened by the man. Ultimately, the story went viral and Ms. Cooper lost her job […]

When a Judge Orders One Mediation Session/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

January 13, 2020

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It is very rare that one mediation session will lead to a final agreement. Why then do judges sometimes order that a party attend one mediation session? There are actually a few benefits from such a modest order: 1. Sometimes lightening strikes at a mediation session and the parties are so pleased with their progress […]