It is vitally important for the couple to realize that once the reality of their having to be divorced settles in as being inevitable, the ground rules of the relationship change dramatically. This in itself is not easily achievable, but the awareness of this crucial difference changes the pressures and the expectations. It should therefore […]
September 28, 2010
Two significant article/essays appeared last year dealing with divorce and its outcomes. They underscore the need both for marital mediation and divorce mediation. These pieces appeared in Atlantic and Time magazine. First, a word on marital mediation. An article on this newer mediation field appeared in mediation.com in May 2009. Marital mediation is a term […]
September 19, 2010
Not all mediations succeed in attaining an agreement. What is gained by the efforts in such a scenario? I believe no mediation is completely unsuccessful. The parties have built up some trust and respect for each other’s position. Some issues are often resolved even though a complete agreement has not been reached. Likely, the parties […]
September 19, 2010
Many people who come to my office asking about divorce tell me stories that I have seen and encounter from my married clients, friends and relatives. Evaluating a story and telling someone that their story is in the “normal” range for marriages can be very helpful to a client. Telling a client that many people […]
September 13, 2010
Michael Goodwin, a syndicated columnist, once wrote a piece in which he accused President Obama of getting the teaching of President Teddy Roosevelt backwards. He accused him of being soft on dictators and international critics and having a “Big Stick” when it comes to domestic politics. Do bankers, for example, truly deserve more hostility than […]
September 13, 2010
An article appeared in the New York Times on ways to optimize the use of Google in internet searches. One suggested use: Use Google to find out what time it is in any spot around the world. Surely a valuable tool in a global economy. In my musings, I pondered whether there is any method […]
September 12, 2010
As a general rule, human beings have a unique capacity to be quite perceptive when it comes to recognizing the faults of others, but are almost totally blind when it comes to seeing their own faults. All blemishes one is able to see, except one’s own (variation on a statement in Talmud, Nega’im, 2:5). One […]
September 5, 2010
Articles appear currently, in ever-increasing number, trying to evaluate what is at the core of the drop in President Obama’s popularity. One theory that is intriguing is that the President has placed too much emphasis on his personality and his self-declared assets. Thus, for example, a reported of meeting of worried Democrats with the President […]
September 28, 2010
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