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What You Can Control/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 12, 2020

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It is often said by those in the mental health field that we can be far healthier once we realize that we can’t control external events. We can only control how we react to them. A recent article was written for mediate.com by mediator and author, Cinnie Noble. The July article begins by citing the […]

Parenting Post-Divorce/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 5, 2020

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I just came across a blogsite which is authored by Pastor Thom Dick, who serves as Assistant Pastor at the Canadian Southland Church. In an article found here, the Pastor discusses how parenting can work even after divorce.: https://www.mysteinbach.ca/blogs/9555/three-keys-to-successfully-co-parent-after-divorce/ There are three rules to consider in post-divorce parenting. They are as follows: 1. Assume that […]

A Prime Minister Speaks on ADR/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 28, 2020

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An article penned by the Harvard Program on Negotiation (found at https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/international-negotiation-daily/international-negotiations-and-conflict-tony-blairs-10-principles-for-dispute-resolution-negotiations/) discusses the negotiation style of former UK Prime Minister Tony Blair. Of particular note is the following idea: “Because the two sides in a lingering dispute have difficulty seeing each other’s pain, conflict resolution is best viewed as a journey rather than an […]

The Benefits of Mediation/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 21, 2020

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Many benefits are listed as “selling points” for mediation. It is fast, it is relatively inexpensive, it is private, etc. However, there are benefits of mediation that go beyond its favorable comparison with standard litigation. It is better to resolve disputes amicably than via confrontation and rancor. Tf you will, mediation is better for the […]

Know When to Listen/Martin Rosenfeld,JD

June 14, 2020

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A good mediator listens more than he talks. A good party to a dispute knows both how to talk and how to listen. The conversation in a mediation is a prelude to successful resolution of the dispute at hand. On June 13, 2020, Maureen Dowd wrote an op-ed about listening and talking, entitled “An Anti-Trump […]

Isolating and Separating?Martin Rosenfeld,JD

June 14, 2020

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A post by Hadassah Fidler appeared at mediate.com (June 12, 2020)on the issue of “Separation in Isolation”. What advice can be given to couples who are contemplating divorce while simultaneously isolating under one roof, due to COVID-19? An Israeli psychologist, Dr. Yossi Shafer suggests that the couple focus on survival and not dwell on long-range […]

A True Mediator?/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 3, 2020

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VP Biden spoke about the tragic events of recent days. (Is that all it has been. It seems like a lifetime.) He promised that if elected, he will listen to people and try to get it right. Is that not the role of the mediator? Trying to defuse toxic situations. Listening. Guiding. Faciliating. Trying to […]

Bias or Something Else?/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

May 28, 2020

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A few days ago, Amy Cooper was walking her dog in Central Park. An African-American gentleman told her that her dog was not leashed. Ms. Cooper reacted to this comment by calling NYC police and falsely claiming she had been threatened by the man. Ultimately, the story went viral and Ms. Cooper lost her job […]

Because I Can/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

May 28, 2020

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Why would President Trump not wear a mask in public despite medical advice that this be done? Why would he tweet a conspiracy theory about Joe Scarborough killing an aide 19 years ago? The polls indicate that neither action is looked upon favorably. But sometimes we just do things because we can. Because we are […]

Divorce Advice in the COVID Era/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

May 17, 2020

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There are many stories being written about how divorced couples have risen to the occasion to collaborate at this time of crisis. Challenging times sometimes does bring out the best in all of us. However, some issues that are not as pleasant, include the following: 1. Disputes about spending time with the children. This is […]