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A Quote For a Year That Has Passed/Martin Rosenfeld,JD

January 3, 2021


This past year of 2020 was one filled with divisions, fighting words, and verbal assaults. It is helpful to consider a quote that talks of peace and a pursuit of peace. This quote is by Peter Drucker: “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.” Sometimes what is not said […]

Your Own Facts/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

December 19, 2020


The late Senator Patrick Moynihan of NY is often quoted about the impact of truth. Specifically, he said: “You are entitled to your own opinion, but you are not entitled to your own facts.” As the current Administration comes to an end, this is of timely import. However, it relates to mediation process as well. […]

Because it is Hard/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

November 4, 2020


When President Kennedy spoke about space travel he explained that he was pushing for the NASA program “[N]ot because it is easy but because it is hard.” In a recent article by the Wall Street Journal (November 2, 2020)on the effect from the COVID virus on businesses, a restaurant owner, Ms. Tracy Shields, explains why […]

Handling Arguments/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

October 27, 2020


Marla Tabaka of Inc magazine, recently wrote “Leaders Don’t Argue, They Teach”. She gives insights into the theme of how leaders act with emotional intelligence. What skills can one use to redirect an argument? Ms. Tabaka’s summary includes the following: *Remain Self-Aware: It is nearly impossible for one who “needs to be right” to be […]

A Crucial Skill/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

September 26, 2020


Here is a sentence fragment. See if you can fill in the missing word. “It is almost impossible to hate a person whom we fully…”. The fragment is attributed to Rabbi Ralph Nichols. He was considered a pioneer in the “field of listening”. The complete sentence reads “It is almost impossible to hate a person […]

When Mediation Fails/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

September 6, 2020


Mediation is the search for Win-Win. Litigation is the search for defeating your opponent. But does mediation always work? In my experience, there are certain factors that make success for the mediation perilous. These factors include the following: *If there is active enmity between the the parties, mediation may not be doomed to failure. If […]

Showing Class/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

August 16, 2020


This tweet was sent out by VP Joseph Biden upon learning the of the death of Robert Trump: “Mr. President, Jill and I are sad to learn of your younger brother Robert’s passing. I know the tremendous pain of losing a loved one — and I know how important family is in moments like these. […]

Congressman John Lewis: RIP/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 18, 2020


Congressman John Lewis lived a life dedicated to liberty and justice. His mentor in his life was the late Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. The following thought, is both aspirational and helpful to those who need dispute resolution. More importantly, these words were declared by someone who “cheated death” on more than one occasion, in […]

What You Can Control/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 12, 2020


It is often said by those in the mental health field that we can be far healthier once we realize that we can’t control external events. We can only control how we react to them. A recent article was written for by mediator and author, Cinnie Noble. The July article begins by citing the […]

A Prime Minister Speaks on ADR/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 28, 2020


An article penned by the Harvard Program on Negotiation (found at discusses the negotiation style of former UK Prime Minister Tony Blair. Of particular note is the following idea: “Because the two sides in a lingering dispute have difficulty seeing each other’s pain, conflict resolution is best viewed as a journey rather than an […]