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What You Can Control/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

July 12, 2020

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It is often said by those in the mental health field that we can be far healthier once we realize that we can’t control external events. We can only control how we react to them. A recent article was written for mediate.com by mediator and author, Cinnie Noble. The July article begins by citing the […]

A Prime Minister Speaks on ADR/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 28, 2020

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An article penned by the Harvard Program on Negotiation (found at https://www.pon.harvard.edu/daily/international-negotiation-daily/international-negotiations-and-conflict-tony-blairs-10-principles-for-dispute-resolution-negotiations/) discusses the negotiation style of former UK Prime Minister Tony Blair. Of particular note is the following idea: “Because the two sides in a lingering dispute have difficulty seeing each other’s pain, conflict resolution is best viewed as a journey rather than an […]

Getting to Yes/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

April 29, 2020

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I recently took a CLE course in mediation styles. I enjoy seeing how other mediators apply their trade. The mediators teaching the course had very different ideas than do I about the manner and goal of their mediation style. Since mediation is referred to as an art rather than a science, this difference of style […]

Life’s Choices/Martin Rosenfeld,JD

April 21, 2020

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A Harvard Professor by the name of Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar wrote a popular book on happiness. The book, based on a successful course Dr. Ben-Shahar taught at Harvard, is entitled “Happier”. This book is a wonderful read and offers the reader much to ponder. At the end of the chapters, the author provides an exercise […]

Mediator as a Neutral/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

October 15, 2019

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Reuters reported the following on October 10, 2019 :”U.S. President Donald Trump said on Thursday he hopes he can mediate between Turkey and the Kurds following Turkey’s offensive on U.S.-allied Kurds in northeast Syria.” After giving Turkey the “green light” to “clear a path” in Syria where Kurds had been stationed, could he still be […]

Fake Weather?/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

September 5, 2019

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By now most everyone knows about Pres. Trump warning that Hurricane Dorian was heading towards Alabama. The only problem was that it wasn’t doing that. The president then produced an altered weather map to prove his “point”. On this miscue, Chris Cillizza of cnn.com posted (September 5, 2019) “Donald Trump’s Alabama Obsession Reveals a Very […]

A QuoteThat Says it All/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

August 27, 2019

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I just saw this quote: “When you’re at the edge of a cliff, sometimes progress is a step backwards.” — Anonymous This truism defines life with all its complexity. Sometimes, taking a step backwards is progress. In mediation, too, unless you are Wiley Coyote, don’t go over the cliff. Learn when it is time to […]

Listening/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

August 18, 2019

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A good mediator must be a good listener. What happens when one feels s/he is being heard? William Ury, mediator guru, sums it all up in one sentence: “When you listen to someone, it’s the most profound act of respect.” Many complain in life that they are not “being heard”. It is often no wonder; […]

The Awful Parent/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 6, 2019

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On June 4, 2019, Clare Ansberry wrote an article for WSJ about the screaming parent who ruins Little League games by his/her obnoxious demeanor at a child’s e.g. baseball game. What does this parent do? “[Kids} hate the nonverbal stuff. They don’t want them (i.e. parents) to act up. And if they do, kids see […]

Saying Farewell/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

April 28, 2019

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Chip Cutter wrote an article for the WSJ (April 11,2019) entitled “Bosses Seek a Kinder Way to Fire People”. Suzanne Gleason, a Director of Staffing for Global Employment Solutions, suggested that empathy is a key component of the termination process. “Help keep the integrity of the person intact.” Compassion for departing employees is of great […]