Browsing All posts tagged under »Communication«

Custody Battles/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

December 30, 2017


A mediator/attorney whose thoughts have appeared in this blog is Marcy Jones, Esq. I came across an undated article of Mr. Jones’ entitled “Thinking About a Custody Battle? Think Again”. In the articles various reasons are outlined that argue for the parents working out an agreement for the custody of the children, rather than leaving […]

Back to the Future/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

December 11, 2017


A conflict currently exists. The mediator has been chosen. Is there a way to fix the past? The answer to that is obviously in the negative. However, the existence of the conflict represents a challenge as well. What can the parties do to avoid a repeat of the past mistakes? There is always the possibility […]

How You Sound to Others/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

April 9, 2017


A software startup, Civil, forces people who wish to comment on a discussion online, to first evaluate three other comments for their civil quality. The third comment subject to this evaluation is that of the reviewer herself. The reviewer is asked if they wish to modify their comment, which they often do. In this way, […]

Picking Your Battles/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

March 12, 2017


It takes two (or more) to get into a dispute. It is easy to lay the blame for the disagreement on the doorstep of the other party. Jacqueline Whitmore, an etiquette expert, cites 15 ways in which one can pick their battles wisely. Three of these suggestions, that center about the issue or personal accountability, […]

Trust Your Gut/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

February 19, 2017


Deborah E. Lipstadt is an historian who has written much about the fact that there are still Holocaust deniers who disseminate their contorted views on the Holocaust period. In a recent article found at Esquire.Com, Jerad W. Alexander wrote a piece after interviewing Professor Lipstadt, entitled “A Holocaust Historian Explains Why People Believe Trump’s Lies”. […]

Wayne Dyer

February 5, 2017


The late Dr. Wayne Dyer was a gifted therapist, speaker, and thinker. It is not surprising that he had a thought or two about conflict resolution. This is one such insight: “Conflict cannot survive without your participation.” The Talmud, the compendium of ancient rabbinic thought, opines that in any disputed matter that is presented to […]

President Lincoln and Negotiation/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

January 7, 2017


An article recently appeared in the Wall Street Journal about President Lincoln’s experiences. The article, written by Jay inik, is entitled “A Lincoln Lesson for Donald Trump”. The author points out that Mr. Lincoln prepared for one set of foreseeable problems but instead had to deal with the issue of secession and the subsequent Civil […]

Showing Up/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

November 12, 2016


Woody Allen once said that 80% of life is just showing up. My feeling as a mediator is that if I am fortunate enough to have the parties in the mediation, the odds are in our favor. Many people rule out mediation. Of those who do not rule out the prospect, a fair number choose […]

Women Who Thrived Post-Divorce/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

June 7, 2015


Brittany Wong wrote a recent piece on HuffPo entitled “8 Famous Women Who Reinvented Themselves After Divorce”. In facing the challenges posed by divorce, famous women tried new ventures and worked to create new opportunities for themselves. One of the women, Elizabeth Gilbert, a writer, said the following: “I am choosing happiness over suffering.” We […]

Impact of Divorce on Children/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

May 20, 2015


The May 25, 2015 edition of Time Magazine has an interview with Penelope Leach, a British author. Her recent book “When Parents Part” cites the fact that more than half of high school students do not have an intact family, with two parents. Ms. Leach concludes that in almost all situations the children are negatively […]