The Challenge of Cynicism/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on December 26, 2017


In the December 26, 2017 edition of the LA Times, the author Noah Berlatsky wrote a piece entitled “The age of naive cynicism”. Mr. Berlatsky finds cynicism as being way too prevalent in our age. As he tells us, for those who believe the system is rigged, and things will never change, the resulting apathy will ensure non-productive activity. Why vote or engage in activism if things are always going to be the same? The antidote to pervasive cynicism is the belief that people can change the status quo for the better. If cynicism is the “embrace of despair” and a choice of believing that the worst will happen, the preferred alternative is to take an active and positive role in life’s endeavors.

There is a cynical view found in some circles that militates against the institution of marriage. In this scenario you marry, get divorced, and get pauperized via the litigation that accompanies divorce. Firstly, few marry with the thought that they will divorce. The marital relationship calls for the investment of time and effort in growing the relationship. Happy marriages do exist in large number. However, divorce does enter into half of the marriages. In such cases, divorce mediation offers the couple a chance to end their relationship with dignity and respect. For those who divorce and maintain a cynical attitude about how to end the marriage, litigation will likely suit them fine. For those who believe in a more active and positive role for those who choose to divorce, mediation offers a different, and more productive, option. Mediate don’t litigate.