Posted on February 19, 2017


One of the strengths a mediator must possess is having the gift of patience. A solution that may not immediately be apparent, may well develop if the parties continue the dedicated work of talking, negotiating, and pursuing a proper solution to the question at hand. The mediator must be prepared to work in trying to achieve such a positive result.

There is a story of a therapist who interviewed someone who survived the swirling waters of a tsunami by holding onto a branch for hours until help could finally arrive. The party was asked how a person could spend hours in a such a position despite the obvious trauma and physical discomfort. There was the answer of the survivor: “I remembered advide a primary grade math teacher had given us. She said that when a problem was difficult, a person had to try hard to find a solution. When the problem was impossible, they simply needed to try harder.” Having patience in seeking a solution, becomes possible when one focuses on what can be accomplished by never giving up even when the odds seem insurmountable. Even impossible problems can be solved. One simply has to be patient enough to “try harder”. Be hopeful. Be patient. Mediate don’t litigate.