The Blame Game/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on December 4, 2016


An article appeared at TheHill.Com entitled “Dem Blame Game Rages Over Clinton Loss”. The article, written by Niall Stanage, contains the following quote by Jane Sanders, whose husband Bernie, contested Ms. Clinton for the Democratic nomination: “The Vermont senator’s wife, Jane Sanders, said in the days after the election that he would ‘absolutely’ have had a better chance of vanquishing Trump. But, she added, ‘it doesn’t matter now.'”

The key section of the quote by Ms. Sanders is that, after the fact, very few things matter. I once saw a quote that the only person who gains anything by looking backwards is the oarsman. When things have an adverse result, people tend to look backwards and assess blame. It is human nature to do so but it has very little possibility of effecting positive change. In fact, the opposite is true. The likelihood of causing harm by being a “Monday morning quarterback’ is great. Even under the best of circumstances, marriages to fail, partnerships do unravel, and bad things happen to good people. Mediation will help parties move forward and plan for the rest of their life. Looking back with rancor can be quite destructive. And sometimes it is easier to say “It doesn’t matter now.”

Mediate don’t litigate.