Shimon Peres/Martin Rosenfeld,JD

Posted on October 9, 2016


The recent passing of the ex-Prime Minister/President of Israel, Shimon Peres, has led to many tributes to this dignified and compassionate leader. The following quote was attributed to Mr. Peres:

” “Why is America great?” I asked him. “Because they were givers. Why is Europe in trouble? Because they are takers. America is giving; people think it’s because they are generous. I think it’s because they are wise. If you give, you create friends. The most beneficial investment is making friends.”

Marriage is about giving and taking. The mediation process for a divorce agreement likewise involves giving. In short, if you give respect you get respect. If you are willing to be flexible and sensitive to the stated needs of another, you have the right to expect the same from them. If you view a negotiation as a “wish list” of your own needs, and do nothing more, you will not attain all that you desire. As Mr. Peres stated: “If you give, you make friends.” This is true even when one is closing the door on a marital relationship. Giving, and being open to another’s stated needs, is truly a beneficial investment.

Mediate don’t litigate.