Mediator Selection/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on May 30, 2016


I just saw an article on choosing a mediator. What trait is most important in the mediation selection? The answer was “trust”. A few months ago I attended a lecture on mediation. In this discussion, the ability to be “empathetic” was most important for the mediator to possess. Read three articles and you may well come up with three different preferred mediator traits.  How then does one decide?

My advice would be to first determine what is most important to you. Do you prefer the veteran with years of experience? The young professional who is filled with energy and ambition? Perhaps you want a person who shares your cultural values and perspectives? Decide what you and your spouse want. Then ask for a no-obligation meeting which many mediators provide. Ultimately there will be a sense of karma that must exist and that gives you a level of comfort and a sense that the right match has been made. Even when this feeling is pervasive it is possible that the first impression will be a wrong one for you or your spouse. Be flexible and be prepared to switch “midstream” if that seems appropriate.  If you are willing to be flexible and express what you need and desire, you are most likely to find the mediation experience you want and deserve.