Can Fighting be Productive?/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on February 1, 2016


I saw the following quote online today:

“Fight against something and we focus on the thing we hate. Fight for something and we focus on the thing we love.” – Simon Sinek

Like many aphorisms, there are many exceptions to the stated rule. Fighting against e.g. bigotry is a focus on something positive. Fighting for a mistaken belief is not an act of love. However, the quote by Mr. Sinek is a reminder that we have to be cautious about what we are prepared to battle  for or against. In a mediation, fighting against a person or what they represent may be a purposeless act. Fighting for a just agreement, or for the security of your children, etc. is quite meritorious. Perhaps the takeaway is that we need to examine our motives for fighting and our goals in doing so. A more correct rendition of the thought above might be this: “If your fight is based on love, you are fighting a worthy battle. If your fight is based on hate, it will lead to disappointing results.” Before you engage your opposite party, ask yourself what you are trying to accomplish. If you are not a worthy adversary, you may be in a Lose-Lose position. The advice of “think before you leap” may well apply to such situations. .