3 Quick Negotiating Tips For Your Divorce/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on September 24, 2015


Divorce negotiation is neither pleasant nor easy. Some parties may choose to negotiate their divorce settlement , in part on in total, by themselves. The following three tips may get you started on the right foot

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.

The divorce agreement may well affect the rest of your life. It will certainly impact the way you look back upon your divorce negotiation. Take the attitude that you are planning for something that will transcend the anger and bitterness of the moment. Will you be comfortable X years from now with the way you handled the process? Take the big picture into account. Something is not right simply because you said it. Nor is it wrong simply because you ex said it. Keep a proper perspective.

You Own Your Own Actions

Once you commit to something, you own it. It does not mean you cannot change your mind, but good faith needs to be part of any negotiation. Fudging your facts or being needlessly confrontational will not aid in any negotiation. It will, in fact, hinder a possible agreement.

Pick Your Battles

It is wise, and healthy, to give in on some points. No negotiation will conclude with you getting everything you want. Choose what it is that you wish to wrangle about.