Divorce in 2015/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on December 30, 2014


An article on divorce in 2015 appeared in a British journal entitled “Twelve Tips For  Healthy Divorce in 2015. It was authored by Elizabeth Saunders. I will outline the 6 points that were most worthy of contemplation, for those facing divorce in the New Year.

1. The need to try mediation is obviously always the first issue to merit serious consideration. The differences between litigation and mediation are many. One always make sense, one rarely does. Mediate don’t litigate.

2. Keep the communication going even as divorce unfolds. There is rarely a time where talking through issues does not make eminent sense. This is true even if mediation has been chosen as the method of attaining a divorce agreement.

3. Ensure that children are shielded from the potentially damaging effects of divorce as much as possible.

4. Keep an open mind as you try to discern what is it that you only “want” versus what is it that you truly “need”.

5. Utilize the Court system only sparingly and avoid litigation if at all possible, with all means at your disposal.

6. Do not forget to look after your own needs. This includes medical, psychological and emotional needs. If you need the services of mental health professionals, do not hesitate to get it.

Divorce is not at all pleasant but it need not be a life-changer. Do remember that amicable divorce is more than a term people use; it is a goal worthy of one’s total efforts, in 2015 or anytime else.