Never Say “If I Lose”/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on November 10, 2014


Someone tweeted today “Never say if I lose, because you will lose.” The truism in that statement is that what one says, and/or thinks, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Dr. Joy Browne, a radio psychologist, is fond of saying if you have equal likelihood of getting good news or bad news, anticipate good news. Of course we need to be prepared for negative outcomes, but why focus on them if there is an equal chance of positive ones.

Is it unrealistic to expect that one will always win? Perhaps not. Successful mediations lead to Win-Win. In the alternative, other routes such as litigation, often lead to Lose-Lose. It may not be impractical advice to suggest that we never say “If I lose”. Prepare for the worst, but expect the best. This is a good summary of what pursuing Win-Win is all about.