Divorce and Regret/Martin Rosenfeld,JD

Posted on August 22, 2014


A study about divorce appeared in a British newspaper recently. It is found at http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2727716/Is-going-separate-ways-really-good-idea-Astonishing-50-divorcees-regret-breaking-partner.html. It concludes that more than half of the couples surveyed had regrets about their divorce. A goodly number still had feelings that matters could have turned out differently. While it is difficult to derive much insight from studies that try to quantify regret (i.e. a person might regret their decision and yet make the same decision again when confronted with the alternative), the study emphasizes how regret often comes with difficult decisions. For those who have chosen to litigate their divorce, invest the time effort and money in legal wrangling, etc., there must often be regret later on. You will never know about this possibility until it is too late. Want to mitigate this possibility? Divorce with civility and choose discussion (i.e. mediation) over confrontation (i.e. litigation). Mediate don’t litigate.