The Selfie Doctrine/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on April 25, 2014


An article recently was penned by Charles Hurt on the President’s penchant for taking what is known as “selfies”. Mr. Hurt is no Obama supporter, but he does make an interesting point. At what stage does taking a ‘selfie” become an indication of total self-absorption? In any negotiation, an extreme emphasis in hearing only your own point of view make become a negotiation equivalent of a “selfie”. Even in the midst of divorce proceedings, there is a real reason why you need to hear the other side’s point of view. This is true in all discussions, but it is more necessary when the litigants are co-parents. In the social context, a “selfie” may be annoying or a sign of egoism gone awry. In a negotiation, a “selfie” may lead to unfavorable results. When you negotiate, remember that you are not the only person in the room. You can learn more from listening than you can from talking. Finally, and most importantly, mediate don’t litigate. It simply makes more sense than any other option.