Saying Goodbye to a Marriage/Martin Rosenfeld, JD

Posted on March 3, 2014


Family Lawyer Laura Wasser, uses the symbolism of flowers to explain how a marriage should not be ended. A client of Attorney Wasser’s responded to her doorbell. She was unaware that her spouse had decided to end the marriage but realized this upon opening the door to receive a divorce summons attached to a bouquet of long-stemmed, but dead, roses. Clearly this was not the way recommended to convey that one wishes to end the marital relationship. What is the suggested way to do this, according to Attorney Wasser? Her suggestion, and a good one at that, is to state the following:

“I want to do this the right way. You are the father/mother of our children…You know me better than anyone, and I would like to preserve some part of our history and good feelings for each other.”

Dignity always gas a place. There is no reason why dignity cannot prevail even as a marriage ends. This is why mediation makes so much sense for getting to the divorce agreement. Dignity or dead long-stemmed roses? The choice is rather apparent. Mediate don’t litigate.