Take Care of Yourself During Your Divorce/Dr. Mark Banschick

Posted on December 21, 2011


Regardless of where someone may be in their lives, they are always going to be juggling many priorities and have many airplanes in the air. We care about, have a relationship with and are somehow connected to many different people and things in our lives.
However, any therapist will tell you that each of these things needs to be taken care of after, and only after, you have taken care of yourself. If you are not at 100%, there is no way that you will be able to be there for those other people and things in your life as much as you would like. I am quite certain that anyone going through a divorce can relate to not having enough time for herself. It also makes sense, there are so many competing demands and very often, just one parent instead of two. But this type of life just cannot hold up – you have to take charge of your destiny.
Smart parents find time for themselves. They schedule in time to be with friends and family, time to exercise, time to eat right and time to sleep. And this can make all the difference in the world. If you feel tended to, you will overreact less often and have a more even tempered approach to your ex and to the kids. It may seem insurmountable, but finding regular time for yourself, even if it starts out as a twenty minute block of time once a month, is a good beginning. To learn more about ways to do so, check out my book: (http://theintelligentdivorce.com/books/book-one/