The 2010 Election and Divorce Mediation/Martin Rosenfeld

Posted on November 7, 2010


One of the lingering issues that has survived the recent election is whether or not President Obama can dispel feelings that he is aloof and/or elitist in his approach. President Clinton made adjustments to his political approach 2 years after he was first elected President. Can President Obama duplicate the same transformation?

As an electorate, the American public has become much more sensitive to the way personality and emotional makeup defines the person who is in a leadership role. Note all the fascination with Nancy Pelosi’s personality and Hillary Clinton’s likability.

In a litigation scenario, feelings, emotions, likes and dislikes gets little attention and little emphasis. One of the positive aspects of mediation is that the parties get an opportunity to talk about needs, desires, concerns, etc. More important is the fact that the parties have a chance to be heard on all these issues. I have seen mediation open up discussions on whether or not the marriage could still be saved, how illness of one parent might impact on the parenting arrangement, how future disputes could be resolved, etc. In this sense, mediation is much like talk therapy. The ability to talk about fears and needs with a trained therapist can often lead to a healthier being. So too in mediation, speaking about feelings goes a long way towards attaining closure, soothing hurts, and planning for a more positive future.

Is mediation a panacea for all ills? Indeed it is not. It has limitations. But Divorce Mediation far surpasses litigation as a means of insuring a healthier future. Communication will always trump confrontation. Try mediation. It works.